Yep, that’s just how it is these days. Let me ask though, does it really matter?
If the girls are afraid of the guys, that’s their problem, not yours. Stick the time into something else you enjoy, let nature run it’s course. Find a job you don’t hate, spend your money as you like, live a happy life without the anxiety of rejection.
We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.
Men who took the lesson to heart:
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.
Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.
And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
“Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
“Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
“Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”
A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.
I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.
I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.
And that is correct. This is how you manage to appear less obnoxious and threatening as a man. This is how you seperate yourself from the predators and machos. It also helps men avoiding problematic women as well. It’s a win-win.
Give women space and limit yourself to reactions if they approach you. Always assume they’re not interested. Do not approach them, that’s predatory behavior.
Just avoid behavior that is associated with predatory types. Imagine a spectrum with one extreme being “I couldn’t care less” and the other being “I’m going to chase you”. Choose the center. Civil and slightly friendly but not let’s-be-friends friendly. Like a coworker you don’t know and who works in a different department but you see each other sometimes. Be friendly enough to not make things awkward if you meet again. The rest is up to the woman.
Tbh I’ll prob just stick with my tried and true awkward white guy smile-nod. There’s people that have been working in shipping for months I’ve never even spoken to (oddly though they’re all guys, the women talk a lot and they’re mostly funny.)
Fun fact, by doing the above, you’ll end up meeting women who don’t feel that way and are relationship material, and plenty of acquaintances who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
That’s why they’re acquaintances, rather than friends. I agree with your assessment. I can’t consider someone a friend who assumes I’m a piece shit until proven otherwise because of my immutable characteristics. Tangentially, I also can’t consider someone a friend who thinks hell is real and that a perfectly just god will send me there. Needless to say I have a small but close friend circle.
You can’t change other people. You can’t change society. You can’t change human nature. All you can do is to work with what the world gives you. All you can do is to adjust yourself. So you accept the sexism and racism and classism and ageism etc and find workrounds to make it through somehow to hopefully end up being mostly perceived as one of the good ones. Making lemonade out of the lemons life gives you. Screaming at the world to give you oranges will only cause the world to stop giving you lemons and then you have no more lemonade and a sore throat too.
I’m posing a broader question about society to clarify a general concern with no particular motivation, and you make it about meeting women.
That suggests something about assumed motivations in these discussions.
The comic may be and so may the comment I was replying to.
The question, however, isn’t: people may have more on their minds than the pursuit of women, eg, the state of humanity.
Moreover, the comic is about multiple things.
The man sees an invitation to meet women.
The woman sees a warning.
It makes as much sense to ask about this discrepancy, messages, norms.
I understand you but I want to continue being grossed out by the idea of people thinking I am a rapist. Purely because I don’t want to be desensitized to this subject.
Yep, that’s just how it is these days. Let me ask though, does it really matter?
If the girls are afraid of the guys, that’s their problem, not yours. Stick the time into something else you enjoy, let nature run it’s course. Find a job you don’t hate, spend your money as you like, live a happy life without the anxiety of rejection.
We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.
Men who took the lesson to heart:
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.
Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.
And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
“Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
“Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
“Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”
A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.
I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.
I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.
And that is correct. This is how you manage to appear less obnoxious and threatening as a man. This is how you seperate yourself from the predators and machos. It also helps men avoiding problematic women as well. It’s a win-win.
So to meet women, never talk to them or look at them or even think about them, got it, sounds effective.
Give women space and limit yourself to reactions if they approach you. Always assume they’re not interested. Do not approach them, that’s predatory behavior.
Be seen but not heard, got it.
Just avoid behavior that is associated with predatory types. Imagine a spectrum with one extreme being “I couldn’t care less” and the other being “I’m going to chase you”. Choose the center. Civil and slightly friendly but not let’s-be-friends friendly. Like a coworker you don’t know and who works in a different department but you see each other sometimes. Be friendly enough to not make things awkward if you meet again. The rest is up to the woman.
Tbh I’ll prob just stick with my tried and true awkward white guy smile-nod. There’s people that have been working in shipping for months I’ve never even spoken to (oddly though they’re all guys, the women talk a lot and they’re mostly funny.)
That nod is a male thing, it doesn’t work with women. Women smile instead - which gets misinterpreted by men.
Here’s the thing, you man-hater. Men are considered sub-humans just for existing
UPDATE: Yup people love misandry. Until it affects them personally
Does making lemonade out of the lemons life gives you make you hate oranges? No.
I rather throw those lemons back & watch you make lemonade.
Thanks!
Does a dysfunctional society matter?
Fun fact, by doing the above, you’ll end up meeting women who don’t feel that way and are relationship material, and plenty of acquaintances who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
Oh that’s cool, I know a lot of black people like that.
“Wait what? Wdym that’s racist? But I should accept ‘one of the good ones’ when it applies to me? I’m too ND for this bullshit.”
That’s why they’re acquaintances, rather than friends. I agree with your assessment. I can’t consider someone a friend who assumes I’m a piece shit until proven otherwise because of my immutable characteristics. Tangentially, I also can’t consider someone a friend who thinks hell is real and that a perfectly just god will send me there. Needless to say I have a small but close friend circle.
You either accept being one of the good ones or you end up being one of the bad ones.
And me saying that to black people when they get mad I said they’re one of the good ones isn’t racist? 'Cause…
You can’t change other people. You can’t change society. You can’t change human nature. All you can do is to work with what the world gives you. All you can do is to adjust yourself. So you accept the sexism and racism and classism and ageism etc and find workrounds to make it through somehow to hopefully end up being mostly perceived as one of the good ones. Making lemonade out of the lemons life gives you. Screaming at the world to give you oranges will only cause the world to stop giving you lemons and then you have no more lemonade and a sore throat too.
When god gives you lemons you find a new god.
There is no god, only Zuul.
Do I want to?
I’m posing a broader question about society to clarify a general concern with no particular motivation, and you make it about meeting women. That suggests something about assumed motivations in these discussions.
Huh? This literally what the meme is about and you are having a discussion in it’s comment section beneath?
The comic may be and so may the comment I was replying to. The question, however, isn’t: people may have more on their minds than the pursuit of women, eg, the state of humanity.
Moreover, the comic is about multiple things. The man sees an invitation to meet women. The woman sees a warning.
It makes as much sense to ask about this discrepancy, messages, norms.
Not overly much - society has “dysfunctioned” along perfectly well for millennia. It will continue to be dysfunctional for many more millennia.
Better to enjoy your life and spite that dysfunction than to live under its heel.
if girls are afraid of guys, that’s my problem
I understand you but I want to continue being grossed out by the idea of people thinking I am a rapist. Purely because I don’t want to be desensitized to this subject.