I learned in a car with automatic transmission first, but had to drive both and prefer (strongly prefer) a manual transmission.
Worst one ever - The Van. The shifter was about a meter long, the gears were so hard to find, and I had to drive it in tight spaces.
Best one ever, my current Honda from 2014. Absolutely glorious.
Walking is a very good start, yes. And start slow.
When you get high at night, go for a walk. Night walk is lovely.
Also whenever you think about it, stand on one foot, sounds odd but it’s good for your body. Little exercise breaks, go up the stairs and back down a couple of times.
Mostly I want to say - building a habit takes six weeks. Force yourself every day for six weeks. After that it gets easier because you will feel better on a day you exercise, than a day you don’t, and because you will have found the time of day that works. Habit works a lot better than willpower, but you have to power your way through those first few weeks. Commit to six weeks of daily something. Push ups, walking, whatever.
That is so young to worry about a career. What jobs have you been applying to? There are other ways to get into trades, if that’s what you want. Or just working at the grocery store, they seem to want to promote men so much more than women. All the managers at the ones around here started as baggers, all are dudes. If there is a Whole Foods, they have programs to learn butchering, cheese mongering, pizza making, baking.
But get a job first, any job. My kids all started out working at the skating rink, crap job but it’s so much easier to get a job when you have a job. Will your parents let you stay there and save money?
You know, I thought it was gone, spent my youth watching bands in garages and stuff, didn’t hear much about that anymore, community radio station still around.
But then my high schooler asked me to take her to a show in a church. A what? But we went and oh my goodness underground music is absolutely still around. There was a mosh pit, I wished I’d brought earplugs, way too loud for the space but there was a punk band, a speed metal band, and the band she went to see was the headliner - all local bands. It is still there, you just aren’t part of that world anymore.
With my ex MIL I stay friendly because she’s great in so many ways, and just act completely ignorant when she says something awful, for example:
ExMIL: I’m looking for a church but can’t find one that is Christian enough.
Me: Oh, I understand. So many are just so worldly now and not at all Christ like, they don’t welcome the stranger, they do that prosperity gospel nonsense, culture war bullshit instead of good works. That makes sense.
ExMIL: oh I meant they are too progressive, too loosey goosey (Paraphrasing)
Me: Huh?
Or
ExMIL: I don’t understand this trans nonsense.
Me: I know, right? Who gives a fuck what someone else says they are! You say you are a boy, you are a boy, it doesn’t have any effect on anyone else, I don’t understand the drama around it, at all.
Basically whenever I get a chance I just intentionally misinterpret it like there is no possibility that she meant that, because nobody could possibly mean that.
Most of my soups are of the Clear Out the Refrigerator variety, so all are inventions in a way, I guess.
But recently made a dal with red lentils, coconut milk, Hong Tsoi, and Berebere and wow it was good.
We had a guy come talk to us about this at work, a researcher. The way he explained it was that staying healthy let you have more years that feel good, getting old more slowly doesn’t necessarily mean you will live longer, but live without disease then get something that kills you fast.
So that if, for example, you live to 80, get old at 70, not 50, so that you don’t have to be old for 30 years. That’s the point of the whole longevity push and it is actually working, people are aging more slowly.
I have been saying that for about 40 years, can’t be the only one.
I don’t put tomatoes in salad or sandwiches (I don’t pick them out if they are in, but don’t affirmatively like them, texture and taste).
Onion and cheese are my non-negotiables in a sandwich. Pickled jalapenos or cucumbers can sub for tomato IMO. Fancy mayo can also be good for adding interest to a sandwich, or compound butter if you prefer.
For a salad, whatever the fuck you want can go in a salad! There is an Italian salad that is just shaved fennel, onion, oranges, and olives. I actually like it but my point is, if that can be a salad anything can. Also - if you like the taste of tomatoes but not the gloppy seed part, you can scoop that out of the tomato slices or just use the outside part and cut out the middle, like you would do with a bell pepper.
How do you feel about sun dried tomatoes?
I’m older and experienced and can say with confidence that no, most women are not into literal bodybuilder guys. Some, surely. But most? No. Ideal is in shape but not obsessive, bodybuilder looks obsessive.
And the wyvern is correct IMO it is the same as the absolutely jacked women. Most guys are not into bodybuilder ladies, probably for the same reason.
Fitness looks good on everyone. Obsession with getting big muscles, doping, extreme builds are not mainstream attractive. That has gone past general health and fitness.
The heck? I thought both eating and brushing sort of soften your teeth temporarily, so better not to eat right after brushing OR brush immediately after eating.
Never. Once I realize I am dreaming, I can act on my own. I try not to disturb or actively control the dream world though, always want to explore it.
Yeah that’s where I am, and with some exceptions (there has been a one-bus route to the university at all my residences, like walk a few blocks, get on a bus, relax, end of the line is the school) it’s so difficult to use the bus system, one transfer and you are hosed. If I had a magic wand, I’d reinstate the trolley lines to their original farthest reach plus stadium and business districts, make all buses run every 15 minutes (the routes are reasonable) and make it all fare free, or an easy and cheap subscription, wave phone or ticket.
Ah. For me the most direct possible route has car road, buses (yes three of them, and oddly, this only happens in a couple of places and home to work is one of them) and sidewalks, and the roads are 35mph ones so if pedestrians are on the sidewalk I take the bike in the road, if it’s clear I take the sidewalk.
Our old location, it was different - there was a way to walk between my kids school and the office, but no safe bike route and car had to go on the highway and loop around, the road didn’t exist, and house to work no way but car, it had a bus stop but only the bus to the next city passed it, and that one you have to board in downtown so I know what you are talking about. Even with the express bus between downtown and work it would have taken a couple of hours. And driving took between 10 minutes and 50 minutes depending on traffic (bus subject to same traffic) So glad they moved into the city.
Huh. My office is about 30 minutes walking too, but 5 minutes drive and about 15 by bus (only because there are literally 3 different routes that happen to run between a couple blocks from my house to a block from my work, so the fucking half hour frequency doesn’t apply - I specifically live near bus lines always but they slashed the frequency) . I actually bike in every day unless it’s raining.
I cannot imagine asking a guy his size. That is rude as heck.
If you have to answer “big enough” or “haven’t had any complaints” seems reasonable though honestly I’m having trouble putting myself into the mindset of someone who would inquire.
Me too but that’s the smallest part of parenting, right? I felt so good pregnant, no migraines, insane sex drive, so healthy and it did a lot for my relationship with my body in general. Labor not bad,the baby coming out is terrible but didn’t take long, but after that it’s a very long road. I did love raising kids, but don’t think that has much to do with easy pregnancy.
This was my mom. I luckily had my easy babies after the more screamy one, but my mom had 3 kids, said she was always so judgemental of parents with kids throwing tantrums in the store, she knew she was doing something right because we didn’t do that, and in her words:
"For my hubris, God sent me Janet "
And she figured out that there are kids who scream in the store no matter what you do.
I know Lemmy is aggressively anti-child for some reason, but parenting was by far the best work I have ever done. Kids are work but such delightful little people.
Also my mom - I didn’t remember her being affectionate with us, she did a good job of clothing, feeding, educating us but wasn’t ever really, I dunno, Mom - like? I asked her about it once and she said "I don’t like little kids " and I was like WTF you had so many kids! And she said “well I like you all NOW, I knew you would grow up and become people.”
https://youtu.be/hn6AbrtjK9I
Relevant song. And a good one.