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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • I give this a 50/50 being sea lioning. The reason being I thought this way when I was younger. I’m white and didn’t understand why everything was so focused on race until I was an adult. I don’t care about race that much, but everyone around me did and I thought it was weird. Once I was older and educated, I understood that it’s FAR more complex than my kiddo brain could handle without some education.


  • I wonder where this movement started where people overly obsess about this. Can’t we already just treat people for who they are/their personality and not judge them by their skin color and also not prefer some ethnicities over others?

    I’m gonna guess you’re white. There are many reasons why people make race their identity. One of them is because OTHER people make it their identity. If you’re just a normal person walking down the street, but other people only reduce you to “black person” or “asian person” or “gay person” or whatever then there’s something in our nature that takes that on and reframes it into a positive, a strength. Most of the “something person” people I know didn’t start caring about that, but other people reinforced it SOOOOOO much. Additionally, when your category is legislated at the government level, then you can’t help but assume it’s a main part of your identity. To the government and society, you ARE that person. When you need permission from the government just to exist, it is defining.











  • No, gaslighting is when you say it’s sunny outside and someone argues that it’s actually cloudy. You can see for yourself that it’s sunny, but they insist it’s not. Usually, it’s not so cut-and-dry, my example is absurd to demonstrate how insane it is. Usually it’s more subtle, like you’re sure you put your keys on the key-hook next to the door, but your spouse says that you didn’t and then finds them in the bathroom or something. You’re 100% sure you put them on the hook, but your spouse is 100% sure you didn’t. (Spoiler, you did, and the spouse moved them, then lied and said you must have done it. The point is to make you doubt yourself.)