• dwindling7373@feddit.it
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    1 day ago

    That’s what I would personally call “cheap”.

    Among those words the only one that could barely resonate would be “I like the way you see the world”, but that’s still pretty reductive as I doubt your partner at the time is doing groundbreaking philosophy.

    And it doesn’t say much about your feeling toward anybody else that share the same outlooks/lifestyle.

    • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nz
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      22 hours ago

      That’s cheap? What would you consider deep, then? Binding your soul to your partner’s in an ancient ritual?

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        12 hours ago

        Depth here just means thinking more about their inner life and choosing a compliment based on your intimate knowledge about how they feel. That kind of compliment demonstrates the connection in a way that feels profound, rather than mere flattery.

        About fifteen years ago I told my partner, rather artlessly I thought, that I love them not in spite of their flaws but because of them, too. It wasn’t what you’d call genius material but the words were intended to quell a deep fear of conditional love, and they still haven’t forgotten the compliment. Despite not being anywhere near poetry or a grand gesture, the fact that I realized this could not be left implicit was an important moment in our relationship.

        Not a perfect example, but it’s the best I’ve got.

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        12 hours ago

        A combination of “I don’t know I just do” and “Probably because of my experiences as a child”.

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          12 hours ago

          Huh. So knowing your own desires makes relationships shallow in most people’s eyes?

          Drag sure is glad not to be normal