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  • Real men are also able to access their emotions, express their needs(both emotional and physical), develop and share empathy, and nurture deep relationships within their community.

    Though i would argue none of what either of us said has to do with gender.

    Relentlessly locking your own humanity away behind a strong man facade built on shame is one of the biggest reason these fuckers become so hateful and make “manliness” seem like such a putrid prospect.



  • All are biased.

    If there’s an event occurring within the last few days I’ll check AP and a couple other moderate/right sources to check/compare spin.

    After a few days there’s usually a pod out on it from the left view. I like It Could Happen Here, Some More News, and Even More News. They’re incredibly well sourced, and are out in the open about their biases.

    Even when there’s no editorializing there’s selection bias. That selection is due to capacity or the political viewpoint of the reporting. You won’t see stories that are less relevant to reporter/editor interest.



  • Eh a lot of States are shaped by successive land aquisitions. They are territories then the state borders were defined upon statehood. These aquisitions by conquering or purchase happened over many decades. The national border of the time being adopted as a state border. This were often based on geographical details. After the Louisiana purchase there was a ton of land and it made sense to use a mixture of big squares and pre-existing territory borders. Though big landmarks like the Columbia/Mississippi rivers or mountain ranges play a role.

    Though there’s lots of politics involved but there’s skates Wikipedia.



  • Gender division and masculinity is trained into us from the second our genitals are identified be it sonogram or at birth. From the colors, toys, media, to early childhood social pressures were pushed into one of two molds. If a boy interacts with a girl it’s labelled as boyfriend girlfriend even if there’s no romantic intent (because why would children have that?). But the point is that masculinity [and femininity] is programmed throughout the core development of the brain. Unless there’s a motivation to question it that developed neuron architecture only gets reinforced. By the time you’re able to question it you’re so set in the concrete it takes years or decades of struggle to unlearn the worst traits. When you unlearn them it’s a threat to people who haven’t had to question it.

    When you’re emotionally isolated from yourself, and surrounded by others who are also emotionally isolated, you’re not motivated to be around them since they won’t fulfill your needs. Then, you realize you’re also not comfortable enough to bridge the divide to people who are in touch with their own emotions. So all this hard work and you’re only a few steps down the path to connection. Usually with little sense of where to go from there.

    When you finally get to the point of diving in and expressing emotionally outward, it’s easy to get wrapped with anxiety. You expect others to push you away, not because they will, most people respond well, but because you’re even less oriented and more vulnerable than ever. Though i would argue less fragile.

    Lots of other posts discussing things like whether other people in the age group are socially available, and lack of third spaces.




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    Just to add for anyone reading, and I’m not diagnosing anyone, ADHD shares a ton of symptoms with anxiety, depression, autism, and C/PTSD. It’s also common to have multiple of those at once with a compounding effect.

    I’ve always had a mild level of executive function difficulty(presumed ADHD, undiagnosed) but then i had acute anxiety+depression and saw how bad it can get. The comic is a story of the one good day you might get in a week.