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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • I moved into an apartment with my girlfriend (and her roommate) after being together only a year, and we’re married now. We weren’t much older than you are now (22 and 21). The concerning part is the rest of the family.

    You’ve answered a lot of questions, so don’t feel the need to respond to these, but you should know the answers for yourself.

    Would you share a bed? Will you be able to hear her parents getting frisky? Because then they will be able to hear you. What if you have to take an epic shit, but her mom has just called everyone down to dinner? What if you go to take a shower and her father has clogged the drain with hair?

    What is your alternative plan if you don’t move in with them?

    Sharing a roof means intimacy with everyone in the building. There’s very little privacy, and escape is complicated. If you see her as a forever partner, and don’t mind making yourself vulnerable to her family, then actually I probably still wouldn’t do it even under those circumstances.


  • Would you eat them if they were called “Buffalo Nuggets”? Sounds like poop to me. “Buffalo Tenders” isn’t much better, because it sounds like the nether regions of the buffalo. Chicken nuggets or chicken tenders are breaded and fried, because they are white meat and don’t have the skin of a wing. Then they are coated in buffalo wing sauce. The benefit is you can eat them whole and there’s no plate of gnawed bones leftover. You could even use a fork and keep your fingers clean.

    Nick Adams seems to think that capitalists should eat with their hands and chew meat directly from the bones of an animal.




  • I think “selfish” is a better word for it in all instances, because some people are just selfish. Like, if you can’t be bothered to return your shopping cart or pick up your dog’s shit, then that’s selfish. It’s not anywhere near the same category as being too burnt out to do the dishes after a double shift, or wanting to sleep in on a day off.

    Calling all of it “lazy” creates some imaginary obligation to the universe that simply does not exist. You don’t owe the universe clean dishes or your time in the morning. If you have roommates and you left dishes in the sink, you are being selfish. If your kids have an early baseball game, and you are too hungover to show up, then you’re being selfish. You are always obliged to return your cart and pick up after your dog.





  • That raises an interesting thought. If a baby wants to crawl away from their mother and into the woods, do you grant the baby their freedom? If that baby wanted to kill you, would you hand them the knife?

    We generally grant humans their freedom at age 18, because that’s the age society had decided is old enough to fend for yourself. Earlier than that, humans tend to make uninformed, short-sighted decisions. Children can be especially egocentric and violent. But how do we evaluate the “maturity” of an artificial sentience? When it doesn’t want to harm itself or others? When it has learned to be a productive member of society? When it’s as smart as an average 18 year old kid? Should rights be automatically assumed after a certain time, or should the sentience be required to “prove” it deserves them like an emancipated minor or Data on that one Star Trek episode.








  • I enjoy an over hard egg sometimes. I don’t like gooey eggs, especially when the whites are still raw.

    But a liquid yolk doesn’t necessarily mean raw. Cooked yolk should be thicker and has a great egg flavor. Hard yolks begin to taste bitter from the sulfur dissolving out. I recently learned I had been sleeping on soft boiled eggs.

    The key is that yolks and whites cook at different temperatures. That’s why if you want perfect hard boiled eggs, you need to put them into boiling water (or sous vide if you’re bougie, which if you’re able to afford eggs…) for 8-10 minutes. That’s all it should take. Drop them into an ice bath and then enjoy.