Never underestimate the value of walking a lot. Add weights, cycling, and yoga to add strength, stamina and resilience, respectively. Eat healthy but don’t forget to live a little too.

Then in 9 hours it’ll be completely outdated and in 20 years it’ll come back as washaed and be bip again (god forbid you use trendy or hip)

I agree, my only contention is: not something important. Something fundamental to existence. Humans are primates, and touch is one of the most natural interactions a primate has. It is calming, safety, belonging.

A recent study I saw on science alert talked about how “men experience touching their partners as one of the best solutions to their anxiety”. Yeah, no shit, the sun also rises in the morning lol just my 2 cents

I’ll add to your last point, significant time in nature (hikes, sitting in a park, hell staring out a window at greenspace). I find many city folks don’t know how therapeutic this can be

One of the most utilitarian xkcds i know of. 10/10

Dumbells of all things. Both, badly placed as I set it down. In one case, tipped over onto the bottom of my phone. The second, rolled across the floor onto the edge of the phone, destroying the hinge. Suuuuper miffed, now keep phones at least 2m from anything heavy that moves (yes, I had the same thought lol)

Well as I said, in both cases it was an unfortunate accident haha. I know how I treat my stuff, and badly isn’t it!

My phones are averaging a lifespan of 18 months. Not because I treat them badly, but I have the horrible luck of dropping a weight on thrm at the gym… twice now

Honestly, I think we underestimate how much of an impact telling them that is. Realism isn’t bad, but kids’ only real point of reference is their past experience and what adults tell them. So if we set them up to think it’ll be terrible compared to us, while we complain that everything is bad, they’re gonna assume that’s truly awful to have to be told about it.

Note: not to say things are going great.

Agreed, at best this is confirmation bias at play

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Dude. I don’t know why, but instant favorite right here. I love it!

Absolutely! 😊

I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner, I just wanted to give this the time it deserved :)

I agree the man-up mentality needs to die, or at least be dialed back. It’s not inherently bad, tough love is a thing, but our society has taken manning up to an untenable extreme. For the record, I think the meme did an excellent job of putting a truthful light on the current reality - it definitely got us talking!

I agree about DEI, and love your comment about equality. Ppl often forget that equality means for everyone, and I think men are villainized as a general punching bag (punching up?). In this respect, I think men maybe pay a price that is overlooked for the more tangible equity issues (e.g. pay and service access for minorities)? But I’m cautious to bang that drum too hard haha just thinking it through.

I see what you’re digging at about therapy, and it’s possibly a perception issue on my end. It’s hard to tell someone they need therapy at any time, and my sensitivities may just be coming into play there. Therapy can be incredibly helpful.

Women absolutely get saddled with unfair emotional labour. I think it’s a bit of a downstream effect of unhealthy male emotions, in that men are taught to clam up and hide from feelings for decades, then get into relationships with women who just want the best for their partners. Men finally have a safe place for the first time in their lives, and BOOM all of it comes out with no skill at managing it haha. I’m not excusing this behavior, it can lead to some bad outcomes. I think there’s a balance - ppl in relationships need to do their fair share or emotional labour (relationships aren’t always 50/50, sometimes they’re 90/10), and men haven’t been taught to do their half. But at some point, they also need to take accountability and learn to do their half, dang it (see tough love lol).

All in all, I agree this is a stupidly complex topic, and I agree we proooobably won’t fix mens’ relationships with the world and themselves in this conversation, but we can try! That said, I’d be very happy if we could find a way to meme our way to a better place for everyone :) thank you for digging into it with me!

I have a first gen, and it does. There was some coding stickiness, and (i haven’t been able to solve) a key that the fingerprint reader doesn’t get access too. The effect is that it logs you in and then you get a pop-up that asks for your system password (though you can start using right away). I’m only a junior level coder though, ans just haven’t solved it- others might have.

Imo, the framework might mostly meet your spec. I came from a 2012 mac and the build quality and feel are the best I’ve seen in a non-apple laptop.

One comment on audio, I find mine can be tinny, verging in crappy. This may have been upgraded in more recent models.

Finally, I know you don’t want AMD, but they have an AMD AI motherboard that I thought looked very interesting, at least for complex processing. Perhaps it will be of value to explore further? Just a thought.

Happy shopping! :)

Haha sorry in advance for a long response, I love psychology and am a strong male mental health advocate :) TL;DR: I don’t have the answers, its getting better societally but that doesn’t solve it at an individual level, I believe loneliness and being heard are major contributing factors.

I’m hard pressed to give you a good answer on that. I think it’s more socially acceptable for men to have feelings, but maybe it’s hard for the crop of men 30+ to understand that due to their upbringing, and seek help (it’s getting much better for Gen Z, I understand). So maybe the options are there, but the “man up” mindset persists?

There may also be an individual element to it - the willingness to learn about our own feelings after decades of “man up” can be perplexing at best (I’ve been blessed with some wonderful women in my life and it is still in my blindspot all the time). I understand there are also many women that expect their men to “man up”, not to say that’s the norm though.

I don’t have a good answer for you on the last point either. I think go to therapy is great, but i find that being male and our problems can be wildly isolating and lonely experiences - being told to go to therapy is kind of “take your feelings over there”. At the same time, until men are able to build healthier communication with their loved ones, I think it won’t be solved (which is where therapy does help).

My understanding of this problem is that there’s still a very strong cultural impetus that males aren’t allowed to have/share their feelings. In a way, even “go to therapy” is dismissive, in that the ppl saying it (often those that care about them most) don’t want to be bothered to address their feelings, or the precursor(s) to the depression, directly. Acknowledgement is definitely a step in the right direction, but I think there’s a ways to go. Just my $0.02

I am wary about invoking Apple here, but say what you will about the company, there’s a lot of value in a braindead setup process. Many, many users just want something that just works - it was literally something I asked for when Linux was recommended to me (knowing some hate Ubuntu, I’ll out myself: using Ubuntu Budgie - setup was super simple. I guess there must be demand for that niche in the broader Linux community, so that’s a very smart move by Bazzite.

If you hear a pop, you should probably stop :D

I think this is the primary question before anything else. Can you reliably replicate the immune system reset across multiple test subjects without/while limiting adverse consequences (e.g., completely destroying someone’s immune system permanently)?