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  • As a parent with a demanding job, I will get so distracted with life that I forget to reach back out. I even do it with family from time to time. I feel so bad that my brother reaches out to me more than I do to him.

    I would just send a short message saying something supportive and non-judgmental. Like, “sorry I haven’t reach out lately, things got busy (with my job/schoool/or whatever you do), just wanted to check and see how you are doing.” Or something along those lines, to put the onus on you and easy her feelings if she does feel bad about not messaging you first. I would not immediately ask her to meet again. Just see if you can get the conversation going.




  • As a CIS male I consider myself a feminist because I recognize that women continue to face systemic challenges that demand more than just abstract ideals of equality. To me, feminism goes beyond egalitarianism. It’s not just about treating everyone the same, it’s about recognizing the different challenges people face and working to change the systems that create and sustain those imbalances.

    I was raised by my mom and 3 sisters, and that gave me a front-row seat to the everyday injustices women face. Everything from subtle slights to overt discrimination to being victim of abuse. It wasn’t theory for me, it was lived experience, just one degree removed. I’ve seen the strength and resilience of the women in my life, and I’ve also seen what they’ve had to push through simply because of their gender.

    Now, as a father with a daughter, I feel an even deeper responsibility to be part of the shift. I don’t just want her to grow up in a world that pays lip service to “equality”. I want her to live in one where she’s safe, respected, and empowered. That means doing more than being “not sexist.” It means actively pushing back against the structures and behaviors (the patriarchy) that holds women back.

    I have zero tolerance for toxic masculinity and so-called “alpha male” attitudes that promote dominance, entitlement, and emotional repression. That culture hurts everyone, but it especially harms women by normalizing control and aggression.

    I want my daughter and every woman to see examples of men who are allies, not bystanders. Feminism is a promise: to show up, to speak out (or more often shut up), and to help dismantle barriers so that every person, regardless of gender, can thrive without restriction or fear.



  • hactar42@lemmy.mltoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldGallium
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    In balance of power. Since he is the CEO he holds a position of authority over her. She could very well be in a position where she fearful of retaliation if she doesn’t except his advances. I’m not saying that’s the case here, but there is a chance it could be.


  • The song is actually a lot deeper than the chorus makes it seem. He actually trying to reason with the Nazi and say, “hey we’re both anti-authoritarian, you’re just a fucking idiot for thinking Nazism is the best way to go about it.”

    Punk ain’t no religious cult
    Punk means thinkin’ for yourself
    You ain’t hardcore, 'cause you spike your hair
    When a jock still lives inside your head

    This is saying you can’t just dress like a punk and be punk. Punk is an ethos not a uniform.

    If you’ve come to fight, get outta here
    You ain’t no better than the bouncers

    Some people see punks and mosh pits and think punks are all violent. But that’s not the case, so don’t come around if you just want to fight.

    We ain’t tryin’ to be police
    When you ape the cops, it ain’t anarchy

    But with that said, they aren’t trying to be the police. They want to dismantle control, not recreate it.

    Ten guys jump one, what a man
    You fight each other, the police state wins
    Stab your backs when you trash our halls
    Trash a bank if you’ve got real balls

    This section is basically saying don’t take your anger and aggression out on people. It is the system that got you down, not the other people. Take your rage out on institutions of real power, unless you are too much of a pussy.

    You still think swastikas look cool
    The real Nazis run your schools
    They’re coaches, businessmen and cops
    In a real fourth Reich, you’ll be the first to go

    As you noted this is pretty straight forward, those you hold up actually hate you. Scary how accurate that still is today.

    You’ll be the first to go, you’ll be the first to go
    You’ll be the first to go, unless you think

    Use your fucking brain, don’t be a Nazi.

    This is all just my interpretation after listening to this song for 30+ years. I’m sure there are other ways of looking at it.


  • Sadly, it has been going on for pretty much as long as punk has been around, and it doesn’t really have a single contributing factor.

    In the US 80s hardcore was made up mainly of white angry teens and young adults. Most weren’t racist but some were. And the low entry of musicianship needed to get into punk made it easy to start a band, so some Nazi bands started forming. The fans of these band thought they would be welcome at other punk shows, but were wrong. That’s why the Dead Kennedy’s wrote the song “Nazi Punk Fuck Off”.

    In England skinheads have been around since the 60s but where not the racist skinheads you think of today. It was more of a working class subculture. Oi punk evolved from this subculture, so as fascist started adopting skinhead culture the music came with it. It also doesn’t help that some early punks would wear Nazi symbols to be provocative, even if they didn’t believe in the ideology.

    Even in the 90s, when I was a teen and active in the local punk community Nazi’s would show up to a show every now and then. It always ended up with them getting drug outside and getting the shit kicked out of them. Even if they weren’t at the show if there was a sighting of Nazi’s nearby people would go running to kick the shit out of them. Yet, every few months it’s like they expected something else to happen when and would show up again.

    My only thought on why this shit is still happening 30-40 years later, is that you have to be a fucking moron to be a Nazi, so it’s not like they would have the best judgement when it comes to where they are welcome.


  • Terminator 2 (T2) is a masterclass in combining CGI with practical effect and its ending is a rare cinematic full stop.

    The T-1000’s liquid metal form was revolutionary, the morphing effects were cutting-edge in 1991, yet Cameron used them sparingly and only where practical effects couldn’t work. That restraint made the CGI more impactful and has made it so they still hold up 35 years later.

    The truck chase through the storm drain, the helicopter flying under an overpass, the Cyberdyne building blowing up; it was all real and you can feel that when you watch the movie. There is no way any movie studio would do that nowadays when they could just CGI giant Michael Bay explosions.

    The destruction of Cyberdyne and the Terminators meant the timeline was reset. Judgment Day was averted. The T-800 lowering itself into molten steel is an iconic moment; a machine choosing self-sacrifice for humanity. It’s a perfect final note, not just for the character, but for the franchise. Bringing him back again and again weakens that sacrifice. Any sequel has to undo all of this just to exist. Which is why to this day, I have not watched a single Terminator film after T2.










  • Can you change the report for this one customer who has a nonstandard completely fucking stupid set up that none of your collection points account for and goes against the entire point of this report?

    Well, maybe not those exact words. It’s more like:

    • rep: customers XYZ doesn’t like what they see on the report
    • me: well tell them to clean up their shit and stop leaving orphaned systems in their environment
    • rep: well can’t you just exclude the orphaned ones
    • me: the point of the report is to help you clean up your environment. If they did that it would show improvement week over week until it got to the levels they want to see.
    • rep: they don’t want to do that, they just want them excluded from the report
    • me: no