My job actually offers paid leave for a certain amount of health stuff outside of our normal leave, but there genuinely aren’t any places anywhere near me that don’t kind of suck, except for private facilities that I definitely can’t afford. Not being able to afford time off is also because there are only 2 of us that do my job and my coworker is having serious health issues. Like lots of hospitalization, months off serious. I’m basically fine, I just haven’t been happy in a really long time, so the idea of intensive treatment sounds kind of nice.

You’ll google “inpatient mental health treatment near me,” realize none of the options your insurance covers are all that good and you can’t really afford to take that much time off work anyway, and close the window. (Assuming you’re American, and probably need to get your meds adjusted.)

Yeah turns out, “sitting in my room alone playing video games,” isn’t much of an alibi. I should get some hobbies that involve people. Like…multi-player games.

Is there like, prep time? Or do you just have to decide and make it happen on the spot?

Yeah dude, it was some time in 2014. I’m good with that.

Damn, look at this guy going right to the “bending the laws of the universe” boasts.

Oh Eric Adams can fuck all the way off. They all can, tbh, but especially him.

That’s the best part - they’re all bad! I’m lucky I usually stick to government and most use governmentjobs.com, which isn’t perfect but it’s miles better. But when I’ve been looking for a second job or trying to see what’s available in the private sector, I have yet to find a site that isn’t trash.

Indeed has been trash for years, so that tracks. That’s why I’ve only ever used it to figure out who (maybe) has jobs open and then apply directly - they have so much bad information.

Is this a 3rd party site? Every barista job on Starbucks’ actual site says no experience or education required, so I’m pretty sure what’s more infuriating is how god awful pretty much every job site has become.

What state do you live in? I used to take unemployment claims and there was no requirement to file the initial claim by a specific date (though I’m sure there would eventually be a cutoff). The hard deadlines were once the claim was filled because claimants have to go in weekly and certify that they’re still unemployed and actively looking for work. It’s possible you can still apply, and layoffs tend to be processed faster. I’d strongly recommend trying. The worst they can say is no.

Also, I realize your situation really sucks, and I don’t want to downplay that at all, but I wouldn’t be surprised if at least some of your expectation that you’ll be rejected is coming through in interviews. Interviews are at least part about how good your acting skills are, which is ass, but also reality. I have often crippling depression and anxiety, but I’m great at faking positive and confident, and I’ve been offered most of the jobs I’ve interviewed for in my life. Not because I’m always the most educated or experienced candidate, but because I seem like I’ll be tolerable to work with.

Oh and lie if you’re overqualified - say you’re looking to take a step back because you want to go back to school or something. Stupid but people respond better to that than the idea that we want to pay our bills and a job is a job.

Valid question. I haven’t eaten there in years.

Maybe Chick-fil-A wouldn’t give them a third sauce packet. Did you ever think maybe this person was doing their best in a sauce-deprived world?

Oh yeah, and the misunderstanding could be solved if the leads had one 5 minute conversation.

The latter is Lifetime.

Just add her falling in love with (and then subsequently blowing up?) a man in a flannel shirt and I think you could talk hallmark into it.

Wow how dare you? Big city career woman goes home to small town for the holidays and falls in love with her childhood sweetheart and dumps her evil fiance who worked on Christmas, big city career woman who swore off men falls in love and surprise! he’s actually the prince of a small but wealthy English-speaking country in Europe, and big city career woman goes home to small town for the holidays and saves one of the local businesses from foreclosure and falls in love with the owner who is also hot Santa are totally different stories.

I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with that, it’s just not going to be compatible with everyone. I would never date anyone who didn’t prioritize travel at least a little, but that’s definitely not universal.

“Fun” fact, this is actually why my mom has no interest in camping as an adult. Her family was homeless a lot when she was a kid and her mom disguised it as a fun extended camping trip. The kids bought it for the most part, because the family really did camp for fun, and they were used to fishing for dinner and things, but she said as she got older, she realized things like the month long trip in November were because they lost their housing.

It could also just be women thinking, “I’d like to visit _____ when I’m able, I want my partner to go with me.” Working in a passport office, I’ve met a shocking number of men who have never left the US (or sometimes even the state) by choice. Then their wife or girlfriend wants to go to Mexico or something, and they come in talking about how they’re only doing it for her and they’d never travel if it was up to them.

Anyway, I’d consider traveling one of my hobbies even though I can’t afford to do it often - plenty of time is spent planning and looking at things to do, so it goes beyond just the few days of the trip.