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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • I mean you don’t necessarily need to ask her out to talk to her about the whole situation, right? Think of it as collaborating together to solve a problem. I feel like in these kinds of situations sometimes just talking to the other person to figure things out helps even from an information perspective, because without talking to them you operate on assumptions about what they are thinking or feeling, and once you do talk to them you know a bit more about what’s going on. It can be scary to bring up though. Also, if it were to turn into a relationship, how you can handle complicated situations like this matters, right? Better to start things off on the right foot with a collaborative discussion on solving a problem.




  • I think just getting to know someone and judging them based on who they are is a lot more important. Rather than trying to suss out someone’s group affiliations (like if they are part of ICE), why not simply pay attention to how they treat others and the kind of actions they take when faced with challenges? They will naturally show their embodied values and beliefs, and you can then make an informed decision on whether you want to associate with that person or not.

    Essentially I think we should be judging people individually. Rather than trying to figure out what kind of person someone is based on their aesthetic choices like stickers or tattoos, see if they treat others with compassion. Everyone makes mistakes and does bad things sometimes, but the people worth sticking around usually recognize when they do, feel remorse, and work on it.















  • Good to see a caring take about BPD out in the wild 🙂 People see it at some evil, terrible thing, but with therapy its gone into remission for me and is quite a lot more manageable! Yea, having that loving community around you makes a huge difference in quality of life. Takes some time and effort to build and find the right people, but boy is it worth it.