The my dad is hotter than yours is surely going on - that’s what it’s all about. It’s not some serious statistics, it’s meant as objectification. Not everything has to be present in the picture.

I do think people without direct experience are unable to understand the depth or the totalitarian evil. It’s just too terrifying to accept that one can be trully powerless, that any kind of resistance can lead not just to the destruction of themselves, but also their families, that the degree of bullying and control can be so high and the regard for human life so low.

It’s too scary, so normal human minds just refuse it as a possibility and try to imagine more optimistic scenarios.

It’s healthy not to lose hope, but it’s also not good to underestimate the evil and unfair to look down on the people facing it.

Well, I see objectification as looking at the surface of someone and evaluating how beneficial they could be to me, just like I would with goods in a shop - without acknowledging it’s not goods for me to chose from, it’s a person with as much agency as me and with rights, feelings and opinions that matter as much as mine.

And that’s what’s happening here.

It doesn’t really matter whether the evaluated person feels complimented or not. It would be slightly better (still kind of toxic though) if the evaluated participants agreed to participate beforehand.

Approaching middle age is the new old, I’m afraid.

Depends on definition

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I’m doing it the latter way. I chose 1.

Many people lose the mental capabilities they used to have when they were young, so they become unable to act the same way as they used to. They often lose the ability to learn new things. We’re talking 60+, so there are hormonal changes that can influence both the physical and psychological side of a person. Just stay young in your head is an advise similar to saying “cheer up” to a depressed person. The mental decline is probably partly genetic, partly pure luck or lack thereof, and a minor part can be influenced by lifestyle. So I guess try to influence what you can, excercise, eat healthy food, read, meet younger people and hope for the best.

One thing is to identify the bad behaviour in others, to see you’re doing it yourself is much harder though. People often don’t realize they’re doing something they hate in others.

Yup, how dare women enjoy sex!

The meaning of bread is pretty loose as it is, especially internationally.

Ok, I get this and agree. I’d argue though OP probably is genuinely silly. The problem is when you use dating apps, you have to present yourself in some way. Taking pictures of yourself and choosing the good ones is really quite a killer of spontaneity and truthfullness. And everyone knows you want to show off your good sides in the profile. Taking silly pictures with his cousin that he may end up being a bit embarrased about later seems as genuine as it gets.

What you say is not universally true. There are women (I know, being one of them) who are attracted by silly. To me, seeing a man enjoying a silly situation he himself created means I could potentially enjoy something like that with him one day, which is super exciting to me. If OP wants to meet someone to share silly things with, he should include such photo - it’s going to filter out the women who are way too serious.

That sounds like a start. I wish them both the best of luck.

Oh shit.

That’s also possible, but I think it’s worth it to leave no doubt about your feelings.

It seems like they enjoy this and would like to include you. You should tell them you’re not interested and leave.

People who tell you they don’t sleep with their mother are in denial.

She needs therapy and not just to keep the relationship. She’s not well. If she’s unwilling to work on herself though, I don’t see a bright future.

The word god is used as a stand-in for religion. A synecdoche.