

Have you ever tried “I don’t like this topic” instead of “Shut the fuck up”?
The first one communicates your preference. It’s a statement about you. It leaves the ball in their court to decide what to do about this new information. Someone would have to be a big jerk to continue after you’ve said it that way. And if they are, it’s a great filter to decide whether to even spend time with them.
The second one is a command. Almost no one wants to be bossed around, so many take it as a challenge. It creates a power struggle. Your preference is hard to hear at that point.












It takes a big man to accept government assistance.