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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • My husband and I split things by % of income. First, we made a list of all household bills that we both benefit from - this includes everything from the mortgage to Netflix. Everything. We put it on a shared spreadsheet in Google Drive so we can both access it and update it. The sheet includes the bill description, the amount of it, the due date, and the frequency (weekly, monthly, annually), with another column to deduce the monthly cost of all bills based on frequency.

    Next up we made a section for income, and totaled out what we each take home every month. This is AFTER taxes and insurance, what actually lands in the bank accounts. Then we take the total of all the bills and figure out what % it is of our total combined income. For instance if the combined income is 5000/mo and the total for all bills is 3500, then it’s 70%. Lastly, we then have a spot that determines what 70% of each of our monthly incomes are. So let’s say you bring home 3500 and she brings 1500 - in this scenario you would pay 70% of 3500, or 2450 monthly, and she would pay 1050. If you get paid twice in a month, divide that by 2 and you know what you each should contribute per pay period.

    If you setup the sheet with proper formulas, you can just update the bills as needed, and change the income as needed, and it will update contributions automatically. This is the simplest version, but you can also include savings and stuff if you want as well. We opened a joint checking account separate from our main ones when we moved in together, and we transfer the money to it for bills each time we’re paid, and all bills come out of that account. Our personal accounts are kept separate and private, because anything left after bills and savings is our own money to spend or save however we like.

    Personally I think this is the most equitable way of doing things. We ensure that all bills are paid and that we both have a bit of spending money. We’ve been together for 20 years, and have kept this system for most of it!




  • I think people who do sports with their dogs are likely to be able to see these preferences easier. I do agility with mine and there’s a lot of time spent watching their feet and seeing where and how they start and land jumps and such. He tends to favor his left and will typically lead with it. When we’re doing scentwork he also raises his left paw to signal as well. He uses both paws for all sorts of things, but I believe he does favor his left!


  • I definitely commiserate with this. This is almost certainly the biggest moral quandary in my life. I think in my lifetime there will be a tipping point where vegetarianism will be a large enough minority to make it personally viable for me, but for the moment I reduce consumption where I can. Breakfast sausage will be the hardest thing to give up for me - but I continuously try meat alternatives in hopes of finding something I like.


  • Instead of Steam forcing any disputes with them to go through an “impartial” 3rd party company they choose and pay for to oversee and rule on disputes, they are saying that disputes must go through the courts.

    Basically forced arbitration has always been seen as anti-consumer and unfair because the company is paying for the arbitration and is thus considered more likely to be found in favor of. Steam is doing the opposite and as such this is seen as pro-consumer and a good thing







  • My husband and I don’t watch TV together a lot, but Sunday nights are the one night a week we set aside for it. I often find myself looking forward to Sunday evenings when we get to catch up on our favorite shows and hang out. It’s also typically the only night of the week I eat ice cream, so it’s an extra treat.

    I’m usually busy enjoying my Sunday evenings and don’t even think about the fact that the weekend is ending.






  • Eh, I don’t think the two things have to be tied. I consider myself a coffee person, however I also typically have only one cup of coffee a day (and some days not at all.) I don’t drink caffeine habitually otherwise, with perhaps one soda a week, or maybe a pot of tea on occasion (which is sometimes caffeinated) when I’m in a cozy mood.

    But that one cup in the morning is important to me because I love the taste and smell of coffee. It’s part of my morning routine and I enjoy it. If something happens and I get distracted and don’t have that cup it’s not the end of the world, and I only usually notice when I end work for the day and go to clean my desk off and the cup isn’t there. For me it’s not a caffeine addiction so much as a morning treat. To be honest if they made a decaf version of my favorite coffee I’d buy that instead - I’m just here for the flavor :)




  • Depends on the type of burrito and ingredients. For breakfast burritos I put cream cheese in them, and then smear a bit on the inside seam and it works well to glue it shut. For a texmex style burrito you could use a bit of refried beans, or sour cream. If you’re wearing your burrito you can just sprinkle a bit of shredded cheese of any kind in the seam and when the cheese melts it’ll hold it closed.