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Anger is absolutely a huge turn-off for me. As is all that ‘tough-love’ talk. If it’s not very explicitly explained to me, it comes across as just being an asshole. Even if it is explained, there’s a good chance I’ll be annoyed someone else decides they can 'teach me a lesson’if I’m not already intimately familisr with them. People assuming they know you well enough to redefine you is… Pretty rude, generally.

A government official known for performing a nazi salute just broadcast an ableist slur.

Cool cool cool

I want to help. Do you have any advice? This has convinced me I have a moral imperative but I don’t even know where to start.

“If someone tries to steal your ukelele, let them take it!”

Idk, retusing to date someone based on their race does seem pretty racist to me. I know it’s not the point of the post but like… It’s murky moral territory.

You can’t help who/what your attracted to, true. Even if it might be defined by subconscious prejudice, that might not necessarily be something you can change, totally. But having that conversation… It’s gonna be hurtful, yeah? I think if you have that kinda preference the only easy way to accommodate it is by you advertising it in a general way.

Which only really works for dating apps, the absolute worst way to meet people.

Also, not a big deal, but it’s best to put a space between ‘trans’ and 'men/‘women’. It’s an adjective. They are trans, they are men/women. ‘Transmen’ and ‘transwomen’ makes it seem like you’re designating them seperately.