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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I don’t know about you, but I am very reluctant to insult others, even in private conversations, even if they might deserve it

    I always try to approach things constructively, because in the end, those patterns and thoughts bleed out into the world and your behaviour

    And do keep in mind, even from the poster’s side of the story, it sounds pretty darn bad, and people have a tendency to downplay their side’s wrongdoings and elevate the other side’s. Chances are, it was probably quite bad

    If there’s people in my life that go around talking badly about other like that, even in private… yeah, I’d want to stay the hell away from them too. It’s just a massive warming sign, and you’re going to be the target sooner or later. And you don’t want a coordinated group acting in bad faith against you


  • Maybe part of it is the whole “greatest country on earth” stuff as well. In other words, a lack of humility

    In the European countries I’ve lived in, pride like that wasn’t really encouraged. And if you’re too boastful or what not to the point of arrogance, you tend to get the stink eye

    And this applies to patriotism as well. Here in Norway for example, despite us having a stronger claim for stuff like “greatest country”, very few people, if any, really feel like being “proud” of one’s own country is something that one should be doing, or it being honorable at all. The best I see is that people enjoy living here and, if they see another Norwegian out there or Norway mentioned, they just get happy to see a fellow Norwegian, just because we are relatively small

    Honestly, most Norwegians I’ve met complain about Norway’s problems more often than not lmao, despite, all things considered, you can hardly find better countries to live in, except some other European ones depending on your own preferences

    There really is just, no culture of like, arrogance. Something that I feel like is very different to the US with its super heavy emphasis on individual capitalistic success

    Maybe that’s a large part of it as well. A consequence of American culture being so extremely individualistic












  • You might think so, and yet it’s something that has actually been proven right time and time again for me. It’s what people call “gut instinct”. It has kept me safe, and the times when I’ve ignored it because of “oh it’s probably a false alarm” I’ve come to regret later on

    It sounds like woo-woo maybe, but why? You don’t think that it’s possible to tell if, say, someone doesn’t actually care about others? If they, say, only see them as tools to be used? If you had a trump-like figure put in front of you for 5 minutes, how much would you be able to figure out in that 5 minutes? Quite a lot I’d say

    So why is it unreasonable to think that you can’t tell?


  • I don’t know how you got “discriminating against people based on mental disorder” from “realizing they are not a safe person”

    Those are not the same things at all.

    I have also the same experience as the other commenter, and I tend to get along well with people with mental health issues that are actually safe