

I’m pretty open. I’ve been using the internet this way for about 25 years and to date it’s never been a problem. I’ve got clothes with my handle across the shoulders, etc. so it’s not a secret who I am. I try not to be too specific about some stuff that I don’t feel are mine to talk about, or that might be professionally problematic (I don’t really talk about my current employment anyway - I’m not ashamed of it, it’s just not very interesting and doesn’t particularly define me so it’s not very relevant).
In various online communities over the years I’ve been one of the biggest fish so I’m occasionally recognised which varies between flattering and a little uncomfortable (usually in terms of " You clearly want something so what is it you want me to do/not do or wish I had done/hadn’t done?" but with socially awkward pleasantries). This has resulted in someone trying to use an FAQ I wrote to argue against me, not realising - meaning I effectively had to dust off the old “don’t you know who I am‽” type of response (albeit minus the diva overtones).
In the past the odd person has been a bit stalky and then been surprised when this information doesn’t intimidate me (I recall a particularly memorable one being “I know what you look like” to which my response was a photo of me with a shocked face). I do care what other people think but disapproval doesn’t bother me all that much. I try to be true to myself so when confronted there’s nothing to use against me - there’s no cognitive dissonance (so if I was an arsehole, no, I meant to be, it wasn’t an accident, it’s what I felt was an honest response to the situation).




Despite all the awfulness, it can be kinda nice to be amongst a lot of humans celebrating something.
I mean, I’m not doing it, but it’s not all bad.