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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • I used to live way outside of town and there weren’t any night buses on weekdays, so I got a moped at 15. I just didn’t drink at all when I hung out with friends on weekdays, even when I turned 16 and it became legal, because I had to drive. It wasn’t hard to do and nobody batted an eye. So, the alternative is not drinking. Having no alternative transport is a poor excuse for drunk driving.










  • Valid to not care!

    I have fun with my nails, I don’t see them as expected/socially required maintenance. In my field it’s actually seen as less professional to have long nails, especially in noticable polish. I get excited when I get to work from home for a week because that means I can go crazy with nails and makeup.




  • You 100% are judged on your looks. As someone who’s assigned female though, and usually lets interviewers read them as such initially, I have something to add.

    There’s a VERY specific type of look women have to have in order to be seen as professional. You have to be as flawless as possible, but you also have to be understated. Any ‘fun’ type of femininity is looked down on. The long lashes, long nails and red lips definitely fall in that category. ‘Professional’ for women means you have to spend a lot of time and money on skin, makeup, jewelry, nails, hair, clothing, but you can’t have fun with it.*

    Personally I’m in stem academia, where it’s expected that you look like you don’t spend any time on your appearance at all. Otherwise it’ll be assumed you can’t keep up with the men. Still can’t have, for example, body hair though.

    *Unless you happen to have fun with nude colours and understated jewelry and fashion. Nothing wrong with that!