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Cake day: September 30th, 2023

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  • I’m on board!

    I’m a big fan of the word cunt in all of its current uses it’s my preferred slang term for my own, though it’s rare to find someone who’s not taken aback by that in the bedroom.

    Would it be a grammatically consistent pronoun? “oh, someone left cunt wallet, I hope cunt come get it” or do we need a cunt/cunter situation? So cunt can collect cunter wallet.


  • The way the OP phrases it rules out trans men who have vaginas, trans women who have vaginas, and a bunch of cis women who’ve had certain pelvic traumas or cancers and therefore don’t have vaginas.

    What he’s trying to say is “if you were born with a vagina and you align with it” which is actually still funny because I was born with my vagina, I like my vagina, I’ll be happily keeping it even after all my surgeries…but if this OP saw my face he would put me in the “trans man” bucket because they lack nuance around identity.





  • This, if anything it might clarify a few confusing exchanges we’ve had in the past, and it will certainly help me be a better friend in the the future.

    If I already know you, I know you, I’m choosing to be friends with you because of how you treat me and how you treat others when we hang out together. If I had any problems with that, I wouldn’t be friends long enough to hear you tell me about your NPD diagnosis.

    Now that said, I’ve had friends tell me about a diagnosis and it shouldn’t change anything, but now that the diagnosis is out in the open they want it to change things and I can’t offer that to the friendship, such as compromising on my own boundaries (eg: I had a friend who after explaining their condition asked me to provide tone indicators for everything I say, but I have alexithymia so that was really difficult for me to do and I couldn’t adjust my behaviour to meet the new expectations of the friendship, so we faded out of each other’s lives, they told people I stopped being friends with them because of their anxiety disorder… No it’s because I couldn’t meet the changed expectations of the friendship, describing my emotions every minute is hard for me and I choose not to be friends with people who require me to do that for their comfort)


  • Wait, what’s the internet definition of the word?

    I thought hussy was a synonym for “loose woman”

    What does it mean now days?

    Edit: oh, it’s not that hussy has a different definition on the internet, it’s that it looks like “bussy” if you’re not looking closely?

    Which I never read correctly anyway because I see it written like that and in my head I’m saying “bah see” not “buo see”


  • The “Bail out Bed” was a flawed idea because no one wants to get up and relocate in the middle of the night and interrupt their sleep cycles.

    He snores, he always snores, tonight won’t be any different, so why don’t I just start in the bail out bed so once I fall asleep I stay asleep and the human freight train I shacked up with doesn’t wake me up.

    He finally got a Cpap last year for his obstructive sleep apnoea.

    but we’d slept in separate beds for 5 years, and I was used to sleeping alone and having full control over my temperature and I’m a fidgety sleeper, so we couldn’t get used to sharing a bed again.

    I think both of us being well rested and refreshed each day is more important to the health of our relationship than sharing a bed. If we’re not fatigued, headachey and cranky, we can spend quality time together outside of bed.


  • And then you lose any loyalty or banked credits because it’s technically a “New contract”

    I had 100GB of data credit in my pre paid phone plan. I got 2GB a month for $5 unlimited talk and text starting in 2014, it’s a good deal for me. And you can imagine how long it took to bank 100GB even with the occasional free bonus data promo… That plan was replaced with a more expensive one but somehow I got grandfathered in to the cheap plan.

    So naturally I didn’t want to rock the boat when I was getting my phone for $5 a month (their cheapest plan now is $20)

    But they finally caught on and moved me to the $20 this year, they automatically transferred my data bank and sent me the new terms.

    I double checked and while this was their cheapest monthly plan the 6 month plan would save me $80 in the long term so I called to get swapped and they said that I’d lose my data bank because it was a new contract. I argued that they changed my contract and I should have had an opportunity to choose which new contract my data gets transferred to.

    I spent ages debating it, but there was nothing the rep or their supervisor could do to reward my 10 years with their company or compensate me for the service I had pre paid for (data) that they now expected me to subscribe to on their new terms to be able to access despite the contract I signed saying something totally different.

    Their leading budget competitor had the exact same overall rate but for a yearly pre paid plan, and new customers got a 150GB data bank start up bonus. So my phone bill is paid up for the year now and I’ve still got a decent chunk of data and it didn’t cost more than I was prepared to pay the old company.

    (and yes I do use it, I’m a substitute teacher so I’m always using my phone as a hot spot when I’m at a different school)


  • People’s work preferences are their own, these guys are having fun, good for them.

    I always maintained I can’t work from home, I was forced to teach via zoom during lock downs and even now my job is hybrid, I teach in person in a shared classroom but I don’t have an office, I do all my prep and notes from home. Only I don’t. My productivity genuinely dropped when I lost my office.

    Then I house sat for a friend who had a home office and I realised I can work from home, just not my home, because it’s not set up for work and my head space in my home can’t flip to that “productive mode”.

    So now I go to the local library, which is better than my house but still not as good as an office because it’s still distracting.

    But it depends on the type of work, I prefer lesson planning alone in quiet peace, I get so much done, but when we’re developing community events I love being in our open staff room with laptops out, some of us sitting on the floor, others standing and just shooting ideas around, we always get so much done.

    But I’ve worked in other centres where that level of collaboration and communication wasn’t there - we didn’t have the right mix of personality types, and a workplace like my current staffroom would be chaos and nothing would get done.


  • I still feel like the nouns are in the wrong place when I read this.

    I’m reading it as “New York cows new York cows bully bully New York cows”

    When I want it to read “New York cows bully new York cows” which would be “Buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo” which isn’t enough buffalo.

    I have to inset my own “that” to be able to get my head around “Buffalo buffalo (that) Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo”


  • Both the battery and the charger are old and broken in my brain.

    If it’s too hot out the battery drains faster, if I’m playing music the battery drains faster. If I’m having to swap between conversations, bye bye battery.

    Sometimes the charger works fine but sometimes it just doesn’t charge no matter what I try, and the battery stays low even if I leave it plugged in alone.

    Some days there’s a process that’s absolutely and inexplicably guzzling power, but the next day that same process barely takes up any processing power.

    Some days it just doesn’t turn on at all, and then on rare occasions I can’t get the damn thing to turn off, it’s just blasting notifications and I’m trying to sleep.

    Related: personally I think “old phone battery” is a much better metaphor than the “chronically ill spoons” metaphor that is commonly used to explain the impact of chronic illness.



  • This is a common misconception with “charity shops” in the UK and “opportunity (op) shops” in Australia.

    The assumption is that the charity/opportunity is for people doing it tough to be able to buy cheap clothes and home goods.

    But the “charity” is because many shops like this are partner retailers of larger charity organisations, eg: the “profit” from Salvos stores helps indirectly fund Salvation Army Housing and food relief programs.

    The opportunity comes from who they hire, if you’re disabled or elderly, these shops are more likely to hire you than other retail providers.

    But of course, a large number of charity and op shops abuse their staff as much as Amazon and Walmart do. Wage theft and unethical labour practices galore


  • Where does this this linguistically phenomenon come from?

    Is it a mistaken use of “an accident” with the preposition to reflect the personal involvement?

    Mistakes like “Could of” make sense to me because in my accent “could of” and “could’ve” are identically voiced.

    I can also completly understand where we get “alot” because alot is just the beginning of an acorn, minus a few hundred years of lazy pronunciation behind it (an oak corn =acorn)

    Google is telling me it’s because younger people will use “on accident” as an antonym for “on purpose”. That sounds feesible as an origin. Now I’m questioning if “by intent” is grammatically correct, I’ve been staring at words too long.



  • DillyDaily@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldOk boomer
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    3 months ago

    I genuinely can’t tell if you’re being facetious.

    I thought you were fully serious, but then I hit the line

    Even if prices in reality do not need to compensate, because margin is already big enough, it gives retail a free card to jack prices,

    And assumed you were just poking fun and the poor widdle corporations and their giant profit margins, but then you continued with your paragrap, and now I’m not sure again…



  • It’s the microbial diet, so it’s got nothing to do with ethics, the mother was just following all the pseudo-science around which she foods are good for gut health.

    Kimchi is good for gut health (that part is not not pseudo-science, but it’s just good food, not a magic cure)

    Fish sauce is also fermented therefore arguably good for gut health, but regardless good Kinchela will contain fish sauce, so if the goal of your diet is just “eat all the fermented food that’s good for your gut”, it’s going to end up being lacto-pescatarian.

    Why the kid couldn’t eat dairy must be due to a second pseudo-science belief. Yoghurt is good for gut health so the mum must have had some other reason, something she read on Facebook like “cow hormones in the milk are bad for your human hormone levels” could explain cutting out the fairy without being ethically vegan.


  • Maybe it’s half of what you eat, but I’ve been “allergic” to nightshades my whole life and never felt lacking in options (I have a mast cell disorder, tomatos, potatoes etc cause anaphylaxis, it’s not a true allergy, but it functions like one)

    I can eat practically anything, it’s only like 20 plants I’m allergic to out of like 700 I have available to me. And if I travelled overseas I’d find more stuff I could safely eat there too.

    I just can’t eat much pre-made, packaged organic convenience foods. Most will contain potato starch, unmarked dextrose, “spices” (if it’s not specific in the ingredients list, often I avoid), etc

    Even desserts aren’t safe because e160c, paprika, is what most companies here used when they swapped out the red dye 40.

    So I cook from scratch, but I’ve never felt limited in my own kitchen because of the ingredients I have. (I am limited at restaurants, I usually order a black coffee and enjoy my dining friend’s company)

    I also don’t live in the America’s, so that helps. I can see why they would think nightshades are everything, all the best foods from the Americas start with tomato, or capsicums, and potato is a staple carb. Meanwhile my cultural diet is based on brassicas and oats.

    But at the end of the day, Beans and rice is nightshade free, it doesn’t take a genius to think of a non-nightshade vegetable to add to the mix to make a unique meal.