I mean the girl said he used to message her sending her memes and saying she looks good but if he’s with me I’d expect him to atleast unfollow her??
I mean, if it’s a typical account on the web, it’s more like a performance? Much like any porn actress (these accounts are ultimately softcore porn wanting to sell you their hardcore stuff) it’s an act, it’s in the name.
Comparing yourself with an actress never sits quite right with me. Plus we only ever see the small acting part of the person. If you listen to podcasts, Holly Randall’s interviews with various porn actresses and actors has some fascinating insights into the parts we don’t see, and like and actor or actress they’re not at all the people they appear to be.
And I gotta ask… if it weren’t softcore porn, would it be weird for your partner to be following an actress, and/or being acquainted to them?
He has problems getting hard when we do it which makes me question if he’s thinking about something else but he gets mad when this happens to him lol
This is something you need to talk about. To guys it can be utterly damaging to their ego, it’s less about being mentally not there, but about discussing openly why it happens. After all, it could be anything. It could be nervousness. It could be that he enjoys things differently, and maybe you do, too. It could be medical. It could be circumstantial (e.g. my current partner cannot become horny after dinner for a while, that’s just how it is 😅, body too focused on digestion).
It’s impossible to say, but it’s also really not something to sweep under the rug or belittle. And this is not meant to sound accusatory, it would not be something to sweep under the rug if it’s on your side either.
Talk about it. Discuss sexy and non-sexy things. Details. Kinks. Planning out sex feels weird at first, but it’s sooooo freeing when you openly know every little detail that gets your partner hornier, and you can totally play them, and importantly you also know they’d let you know the moment they want something different.
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