ButteryMonkey

Thanks, that means a lot to me :) I’ve definitely always viewed it as a participation trophy of sorts, but you’re right; my team was absolutely over the moon for me.

I always liked wrestling for the same reason, it’s an individual sport with camaraderie. Two chances to feel like a winner! Did it for 6 years, was a good time.

Awesome, I’m gunna try this for sure, because doing anything on my Linux machines is… a whole big thing… Thanks for sharing this!

I never got a trophy for anything, but I did like the medal I got for my first wrestling win… it wasn’t, like, any big thing, but we were against a specific school that has a good program, it was my first year, I was the only girl on the team… and I won by techfall.

It was definitely a participation trophy of sorts, but it actually felt ok to get. It was engraved to read “for beating your [school] opponent, and first win”

We, as a team, lost to them. Badly.

I haven’t worn a bra in decades other than occasional for a nice outfit sort of stuff.

I don’t consider it self-care, I just don’t have boobs worth bra-ing up. Why waste the money for something that does nothing?

Self care is doing whatever makes you comfortable, not what other people say should make you more comfortable.

Lots of people, especially fem-presenting people, would be wildly uncomfortable with their nipples being visible through a tighter shirt, and you know what? That’s super understandable. People give me looks and comments not infrequently. It’s uncomfortable. That’s reasonable. I’ve stopped caring what small-minded people think so I’m over it, but it takes years to get comfortable with that, and that’s the opposite of self-care if it’s not something you already want to do.