Aww, thank you. 😘

I accidentally told my 50+ friend what shibari is. No, she didn’t know, she cancelled going to a planned event that would have included a lecture.

She also claims she didn’t know before what “bondage” was, and isn’t in the habit of lying to me. So yay for being a good influence, I guess?

Depends on the kind of party, it might not take a lot of money. But it does take time and energy.

I’m confused. Are women on social media interfering on man-to-man friendships?

You have to admit the “leftist” ideologies tend to be about working together and supporting each other, and the “right wing” ideologies about encouraging individual accomplishments, though?

Seriously, it’s not that hard to find.

Somehow this stuck with me, and while you are correct, in any conversation about menses I’d probably want to include the people who eg. use contraceptive methods that temporarily stop them, and people whose periods are so irregular they simply don’t know if the next one is coming or not (my group). Personally I’d also want to include and hear from people who used to menstruate but no longer do, or who are likely to start soon.

In statistics afaik they tend to use “women of fertile age”, which makes sense for those purposes, to limit it to one clear-cut group for clarity. In gynecology for individual patients I don’t think any term is used, just a list of properties (“G0P0 menarche 12 cycle 28 duration 5 normal flow, last period 1.1.2025”) and then you move on to the issue.

And that’s for periods, a relatively clear-cut thing. Then you get to “people who had the female/male experience when growing up”, or “people who perform the traditionally female/male role in a relationship” or the like.

Any reason to celebrate in a way all participants/affected find enjoyable is a good reason. Not very intelligent aliens.

I also liked the idea of New Year’s bingo, things you’d enjoy doing the next year and then seeing if you get bingo/s.

But nah. In 2025 I’m going to start a company that will cheaply generate near-unlimited clean energy from greenhouse gases, pollutants, and (only discarded) plastics. I will install it for free and provide the energy at something like 10% of oil/coal equivalent. By threatening to turn it off, I’ll extort those in power to stop wars (yup, within the year) and obey the experts on how to improve the wellbeing of the bottom 10-50% in individual countries and globally.

Do you often find yourself in discussions where the trans-inclusivity/exclusivity of the term is important to know?

Because whenever I use “men, guys” or any other such term, whether it includes trans people doesn’t even cross my mind. Like the discussions if we should welcome “guy friends” at our girls’ game and gossip nights, or if I’m being too naive around “men”. Talking about “males” like an alien species would be weird and mildly offensive. (Mildly because the Finnish word “uros” can imply admiration for a man’s masculinity.)

If you wanted a term for potential partners you could possibly reproduce with, none of the “female, woman, male, man” terms by itself would do, because (even personally known) infertility for various reasons exists.

Well, if you’re for real, you pretty much answered your own question there. Many guys online are creeps, and you’d prefer to talk with women rather than try to find the golden fun normal person in a haystack of men.

This, so much. You majored in philosophy, you know more about absurdism than I do. You also know there’s no such thing as “being ahead” or “being behind” in life, just being closer or further to your own values.

You’ve got an approximate 30-40 years of good cognition and physical ability left, and soon after you’ll die and nothing will have mattered anyway. “Existed safely until s/he died” is one possible path to take, but it sounds like you want permission to stop being scared. Go for it, the world doesn’t care.

Anything to excuse our unhealthy diets, huh.

You’re aware of low-volume HIIT? Max 15 minutes per day, evidence-based for cardiovascular health same as “normal” exercise. Not for building muscle afaik, and finding your own among the many more-or-less tested ones can be a chore. The popular “Scientific 7-minute workout” and it new versions would probably be a good place to start, and are targeted more for building strength afaik.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37939367/ https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/05/09/the-scientific-7-minute-workout/

Edit: Oh, and to answer your question, I don’t. I do move about by bike and play BeatSaber because it’s fun, otherwise decomposing.

Yea, absolutely, hence the approximated 4-6% return on investment - some years more, some years negative.

There is this apartment that I’ve been eyeing for a while, and I’ve seriously considered becoming one of those loathed landlords myself. Feels like trying to do right by the apartment and by a tenant would be putting out more good to the world than a passive stock fund, you know? So been reading up on it quite a bit lately.

If you get an investment house you plan to keep for 20+ years, those in-demand areas change (here’s hoping the next areas to lose their lustre will be the car-dependent suburbia).

“Sold it for a much higher price without ever using or modifying it.” Proper upkeep over several years counts as “modifying it” in this context IMHO.

I think most of you are underestimating the cost of housing maintenance. We had some bad luck and a couple of structurally necessary renos were bigger than initially thought, or didn’t address the issue as well as we hoped, requiring new renos. In the last 20 years we’ve paid the cost of our townhouse apartment once over, easy. And now the bathroom, kitchen, and flooring could use an upgrade (25-50 years old), which is again expensive. In that time its value has risen maybe 50%, not quite keeping pace with local inflation.

Not complaining, we bought it for living in and it’s been great for that, and now that everything is at the end of its lifespan is a good time to really make it ours. But house prices aren’t rising insanely everywhere, house upkeep isn’t free (there are always “modifications”), and at least here the average ROI for being a landlord is abt 4-6%, same as stocks lately, and that’s assuming no major surprises.

Yeah… I kinda think that’s an experience every omnivore should have. Raise something with your own hands, then kill and eat it. If you can’t do that, at least you now know your hypocrisy.

I’m a hypocrite, too.

The bulls, yeah, that’s a planned pick-up to a meat farm or to the slaughterhouse, easy to distance yourself from mentally AFAIK. Not the heifers you’ve named and intended to keep.